The truth of the matter is that we agree a lot more than we should. We accept a lot more things than we can realistically fulfill. This leads to health and mental problems, and may even end up giving us a bad name in the process. When we are not able to finish the jobs that are set in front of us, we might simply not be able to tackle them all with the finesse we want to do. If you accept too many things in your line of work, then this is something that can jeopardize your prospects in an insane manner.
We need to learn when to say yes. Naturally, accepting everything is something that has to be avoided, but we cannot deny everything also. We have to take up things.
This chapter speaks about what you can say yes to within a realistic and pragmatic boundary. You should say yes to things that work for you, that are advantageous to you and that fall within the rulebook you have made for yourself in life.
Read on to know what you can say yes to, without compromising on yourself in the least manner.
Saying yes too much can end up having some pitfalls. These pitfalls will depend on the situation that the yes answer is being given. Since many situations vary, the pitfalls will also vary. One main situation that can cause someone to get some undesirable results when they say yes is when they are being offered some help. In the event that a person is in a situation that they need help, sometimes people tend to offer help. This might be because the person has so much pride such that they cannot be able to know when to ask for help.
However, when they decide to accept the help that is being offered, the person who is offering the help might decide to continue giving the help. However, they might reach a point that they get tired and decide to stop offering help. The best way to know how to say yes to somebody will be through following certain steps. The steps will have to be followed in order for one to know the right time to say yes and the right time to say no.
The first thing that should be done is an evaluation of the reason why they have to make a decision. You might find that a person will want some financial help from you. When this happens, you can decide to agree or to disagree. You can agree by looking at the situation in a thorough manner. The first thing that you should ask yourself is if you are able to offer the help that is needed. For example, if someone wants a certain amount of money and you have it, you can easily say yes. But before you say yes, you should look at the person who is asking you for the money. They may be an addict and therefore will use the money for the wrong reasons. If this is the case, you should avoid giving them money.
Secondly, the person might be having an emergency. This might be medical or otherwise. In such a situation, you can squeeze yourself and see if you can agree to give them some money. Make sure that they understand that the money was to be used in a certain way so that they pay you back as soon as possible.
Thirdly, you should make sure that you are not going to be inconvenienced when you agree to something. There are some people who are too generous and they agree to things that will inconvenience them. They may not realize it but the inconvenience might lead to other negative results. To avoid such a situation, a person should make sure that they will be comfortable when they agree to do something for someone.
Making sure that you do not inconvenience yourself is a great way to make sure that you have a long and productive life. When one follows such guidelines, they will avoid a lot of stress in their life. They will have smooth relationships and they will also succeed in most of the things that they do. This is one of the secrets of successful people.