Chapter 8 : Agreeing Elegantly


When you are saying yes to something, there are a few things that you have to keep in mind. You do not have to sound too eager in most situations, because this will end up in some serious situations that you won’t be able to wrangle out of, such as more similar requests coming your way in future. Also, people may develop a low opinion of you when you behave in a too eager fashion for anything that comes you way.

There are some rules that you have to follow. You have to be elegant about it. At the same time, you have to ensure that you are not doing anything that you do not want to do, because this will make you lose your motivation soon and you will not be able to finish what you have taken up.

In this chapter, we will see what those rules are for saying yes to somebody without feeling too desperate about it. This is a talent that can take you places!

Agreeing Elegantly - Ensuring You Don’t Come Across as Too Desperate

Life can be very tricky if a person does not know how to live it carefully. By living careful, what is supposed to happen is that on should know when to say yes and no. At the same time, they should agree in a manner that will not put them across as being desperate. Agreeing in such a manner can be an easy or hard task depending on the person’s outlook of things. In some cases, a person might be too eager to agree to something. This eagerness might be interpreted to be desperation. In some cases, this desperation might lead to the other person taking advantage of the situation.

In order to avoid such a scenario, one has to know how to control their eagerness when they are being offered something.

For example, you might be in the service industry. Someone might want to give you a job in your field. If you agree too enthusiastically, the might decide to reduce the amount of money that they are supposed to pay you. This reduction will lead to unsatisfactory compensation on your part. To avoid all this, you can practice some things that will make sure you do no end up in the same situation.

The first thing to do is to digest what is being said. If a person or an organization offers you a job, you should first realize the magnitude of what is being offered. Sometimes, one might assume that what is being offered is something they can do easily. This is the case when a person evaluates something on a face level basis. However, after careful consideration, you will find that the quotation you will be giving from the top of your head might be too low. The best way to avoid such a situation would be to agree to something after thinking it out clearly. You can request the person to give you some time to think about it. This way, you will have the chance to thoroughly evaluate the situation.

After thorough evaluation, some things will come to mind. One of the things that you will discover is the amount of time that is required to handle the task. This will make you plan your time in accordance to the requirements of the situation. Lacking this time factor when you agree to something will lead to poor time management. You might end up having problems with time management and handling the task within the stipulated time.

Agreeing elegantly might be the best decision you ever make. There are several ways that you can go about it. When someone offers something, you can answer saying that you are grateful for the offer but you have to sit on it for a while. They will probably understand your reasons and give you a period.

You can also suggest that you have some details discussed before you make a decision. These details will vary according to the offer that is being made. This way, when you agree, you will have given a perception that you are not in a desperate situation.

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